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I had a fantastic day at work yesterday. It was really easy. Got to a new site in North Van, almost Deep Cove. Building a fence. Fir and Cedar. Pressure-treated. Ted explained how he proposed we build it. He had spent sunday setting the first 7 posts street-side in concrete. I started building the panels which would link the posts to one another. I have to build about 16 of these panels. I built three on monday, and today i built three as well but cut about two hours off the overall build time. I will only get faster at building them. so it should only take me another three days or so to finish building all the panels. ANyway, i was talking about my fantastic day YESTERDAY. Time just flew by. It was lunch before i even really thought about it. Then what seemed like only a couple hours later Ted told me to pack up. I thought we were leaving early suddenly, but it turned out it was already 5pm. So, 9 hours Monday, and then today I just felt good enough to work a long shift – 10 hours. I may be motivated because I enjoy working with wood a lot. Other tasks like painting and finishing carpentry makes time seem to drag. Framing and rough carpentry such as fence-building are really fun for me and i kick ass at both.

In other news, I was unloading bags of concrete out of the van and i noticed that each bag was 55lbs. One bag certainly didn’t seem like much of a stress for me, which was surprising. I guess I always thought 55lbs would be heavier. So I tried two. No problem. Then I tried lifting three bags at one time. It was tough, but i’d say i was still only at about 85% of my lift capacity. If that estimate is correct I should be able to max out my lift capacity at lifting 195lbs dead weight. I weigh around 185lbs. I was pretty proud of that. I almost wanted to tell Ted, but i thought it’d come out sounding like I was a ponce.

Ponce is my new word fascination. Every week or so I get a new word stuck in my head. Not necessarily a new word, but just a word. Sometimes they’re insults or cusses swirling around in my head. Last week it was ‘goof’. This week it’s ‘ponce’. That internal monologue in your head? The sound of your thoughts whirling around consuming your life with an endless chatter of useless pondering, judging, calculating, organizing, evaluating, worrying. It’s that voice. But the last few days that voice has been astonishingly quiet. ALl it says today is Ponce. Ponce. Ponce.

Had a really amazing night last night. It was so painful to not be with her. After a few days of pain I had to see her. I dropped in on her work. She was wearing this fedora and looked perfectly angelic. It took her a couple moments to realize it was me looming in the entrance. We hugged a hug of eternal longing. We cuddled, we kissed. We spoke kindly of one another. I boosted up my Cuban skin in the express bed. She cleaned the bed after me and i could not help but gently finger her lower back as she bent over.

Anna was having a blast of a party at her house. It was a good time. A whole lot of my friends were there. Everyone was there. I barbequed a really large steak and ate it. It was tender and raw in the middle, the way i like it. The olive oil and salt and pepper massage i gave it just amped the level of the flavour through the roof. Pork chops not so good. A bunch of us went down to shine around 10:30 or 11. When we got there the club was dead and we considered leaving. no energy. no one was dancing. I was dancing the moment i went through the door. We ripped it up on the dancefloor. WE started the whole club on a steady elevation towards an all out party. I generally dance my ass off. I don’t like to half-ass dance. That’s generally not how to dance. Dancing is one of those things you need to put yourself in to 110% otherwise it is uncomfortable and lame. So i expended a lot of energy in the first hour and then i was really hot, really sweaty and pretty much exhausted. It was still fun. We all danced.

Left the club, phoned her and she was just getting off the skytrain at Commercial. We met up at my house at exactly the same time. It was like clockwork. I was really excited to see her. I was really excited she was at my house. We showered. She was apprehensive to shower with me. She thought she might later regret it. I left the option open to her. She came in the shower while i was still turning the knobs. We watched Oz, the episode we left off on. Season 4, Episode 3. I don’t think details in here are necessary. But i’d should note that what followed was hands down the best physical contact i have ever experienced followed by the absolute best sex i have ever had in my entire life. goddam. all i can say is goddam. she kissed me goodbye in the morning. atleast i think she did. i hope she did. i was half asleep still.

so tired right now. have to nap. need to recharge. i have no idea what is going to happen when i wake up.

So yeah. I got home from work and showered and now i’m smoking a Cuban cigar, a Cohiba Esplendido. This really is the best brand of cigar i have ever smoked. And i have a box of them. Well, half a box now. I gave 12 of them away to some of my friends whom i knew would appreciate a good cigar. Cory, Devitt, Ronan, Carl, Elliot, Rob, Chris, Ben and three for Ted cause he is my boss and it seemed like an appropriate thing to do. That’s 11. I’m missing someone. Oh well. I feel so calm write now. My body is pretty stoned on this here cigar. Freud smoked 20 cigars a day and swore by them. He said he couldn’t write unless he had his cigar. He also became addicted to cocaine.

So i was in Cuba for the last week, June 3-10. To sum it up: I had a really relaxing, mind-expanding trip. I’ve pretty much devulged all the stories from Cuba to people verbally, so I really don’t feel like writing it all down in here. It would take wuite a while. Many stories. While i was there, experiencing the heat, the insects, the resort, the beach, the people, the entertainment, total removal from my home life I made a list of words, to be later associated – just sort of a sketch of things there so i would not foget them. I’d like to post that here:

anorexic cows
starved dogs w/ fleas
bird cages in streets
banana trees
sugar plantations
horse-drawn carriages
manual labour
prison camp
small ponmy-like horses
thunder like a volcano
passport checks
pretty women
1950’s cars
chicas
they all like my clothing
anything for a peso
open sewage/garbage
baseball stadiums
airport tax
Michael and Michael
Fumigator
crocodile farm
Lazaro
Liset
green. yellow. pink. blue. white.
brick and mortar
parish
cathedral
catholicism
4 hrs to Trinidad
worst 30 minutes of my life (shitty pants)
no toilet seats
no toilet paper
no toilet lid
mosquitos
cave rave
bats
turkey vultures
crab in the pool
beach w/ alex

yeah. I don’t know what else. this is a boring post. not really in to it 100%. but this cigar is pretty damn good. had a good conversation with cory last night about emotional dependence in relationships, and how much it licks ass. a good way to tell if that’s the case in any given relationship is if you can define a sudden onset of deep neediness, like a craving to be with that person, to have that person close, to have their attention and approval and then to notice whether that deep need is transient – whether it dissapears in a relatively short time period. Say, if one moment you really desire that person and then a few hours later don’t really need them very badly, or are pretty content without them. What’s actually going on is an emotionally-based need, and to fulfill that need with the other person is practically like using someone as a drug. it was a good conversation and he was pretty dead-on.

Worked in the sun all day. It was really beautiful out, very sunny. I got a lot of sun even though i wore sunscreen. I haven’t washed my hair in a week. Gonna see how long i can go without shampooing it. Finishing up the soffits on Sylvia’s house. Taking longer than i want it to and it makes me frustrated. Ted is really stressed out cause his ex-gf just checked in to treatment. Also Sylvia has been putting pressure on him given that she expected her soffits to be done by now. Sometimes it’s hard to not be affected by the emotions of those around me. I feel bad for ted cause I really think he’s a great guy and a greater boss and it hurts me to see him sad and stressed. I talked to him at the meeting tonight. He said he wasn’t alright and his eyes were tearing and mine started tearing automatically as well.

I was looking forward to jamming tonight all day. When it came down to it I found our rehearsal really frustrating. i just feel that i what i want to write, the music i want to write never is realized when i jam with others. my songs always get changes, diluted. i really just wanna be in a band, a very particular band in my head, and be touring on the road playing shows, rocking venues. seems like i can never get there.

I’m lonely. right now, i’m alone and i’m lonely. my bed is so empty without her. i miss her. that kind of love seems so far away now, like it’ll be forever till i can be in love like that again. i hate that. i hate being lonely. it’s the worst. i started remembering a bunch of great things about her and then i had to make myself remember the bad things cause it was hurting too much to not have the good things. i’m supposed to be pouring my anger and sadness and loneliness in to my music and art but neither seem to come even close to satisfying. fuck. chain smoking helps. so does masturbating like 5 times a day. i look forward to work, helps me focus on something else, and unlike the band thing when i build stuff it usually turns out surprisingly beautiful and gratifying. think i need to be playing with a different band.

need a new cell phone.

She makes me wanna die
Follow where mary goes
Cherish the things she knows
Says if I change my stride
Then Ill fly
She makes me wanna die
Change my stride
Then Ill fly
Look to the sun
See me in psychic pollution
Walking on the moon
How could you dare?
Who do you think you are?
Youre insignificant
A small piece, an ism
No more no less
You try to learn the universe
Cant even converse in uni-verse
You know its ironic smoking hydroponic
She makes me wanna die
And change my stride
Then Ill fly

oh yeah… this is probably where you wanna stop reading cause the next one’s gonna sting.

paralyzed
all i can do right now is sit here and chainsmoke Marlboro Reds.
i don’t really know what to do about this.
i know that my feelings are hurt.
that i’ve been lied to.
that i deceived myself in to believing something was there when it was not.

happy i have tomorrow off work. gonna sleep a lot and rock the fuck out with rob. play guitars really really fucking loud and break shit. i wanna break shit. i wanna do anything i can to forget about her cause when i think about her, yeah it’s all fine until the innevitable dagger comes and rips my heart out of my chest. i can’t let myself give up that power.

she’s in a different place than you. you were there once too. sometimes you lapse back there. it’s a place of using other people, getting their attention and admiration and using their love to make myself feel good. but i wear thru people like tissues and then toss them. leave the gate open but go hunting for the next one. i know the game. i hate the game. i don’t need to play it. talk to me again when you actually love me.

slept 2 and a half hours last night. Feel like shit run-over. Now I gotta go walk around on scaffolding 30 feet up in the air. My head is spinning. This can’t be good.

I had a pretty awesome day today. Woke up at 5:30am, Lorea and I went to Yoga for 6am. After an hour and a half of sweating, scretching and meditating we had scones and coffee at Tony’s across the street on the drive. I worked 6 hours in the scorching sun, on a roof, sheeting these new soffits I built off of the gables. It was so hot and sunny and beautiful. By about 1pm I was definately feeling sun stroked. SHortly after, Ted and I called it a day and I called Lorea to see if she wanted to go to the beach. I picked her up from 10th and Alma and we instead went to her house and had a shower together. She brushed my hair. She plucked my very few chest hairs and plucked my gross spider-leg nipple hairs. She massaged moisturizer in to my burnt back. It was so wonderful to be taken care of, to feel loved by the one I love. She put on soft acoustic music that she likes and said, “I’m sorry, I know you don;t like this music.” I didn’t mind it. I was happy to be with her. The music was almost matching for the moment. It was beautiful. She was beautiful. We had a nap together and I laid away from her but still gently touching her, to feel connected to her, but not so all on top of her cause that makes her feel clausterphobic. I drove her downtown for her west-coast swing dance lesson. I went and got a coffee at Artigiano’s and bought a book at Chapters. I watched her dance for a few minutes and was happy to watch her dance. She’s a good dancer. I like watching her move. I like that she loves it so much. So focused. So determined. It makes me happy that she invests in herself like that and believes she can do anything she puts herself 100% in to. Met up with JR who happened to be downtown. The three of us grabbed sushi. Lorea went to Salsa dance at Ginger 62 and JR and I went to catch the end of The Bay Group at the Alano club. Heard a bunch of AA rhetoric and some guy at the podium mention several times how he used to be a millionaire before coming to AA but now his life is richer. Sometimes just showing up is all that matters. JR and I smoked cigarettes and laughed a lot together. She was very JR, like she was when I first met her. It made me really happy. It made me really happy to hear she doesn’t want to be a crackhead. WE picked up Breanna and we decided to drag Breanna to Karaoke at Uranus. ALmost like magic, Queen’s Bohemian Rhapsody came on the radio and like that scene out of wayne’s world we all sang along, reciting every word of the entire song in unison and harmony. The energy was high. I sang Mack The Knife and Girl from Ipanema at Karaoke, and was surprised that I can still sing quite well. We were the only ones in the enitire club and we only had to buy a drink each to sing. A diet coke, a cran and 7, and a cran and soda. We’re high-class drunks. We’re so drunk we don’t even need the drink. I dropped them all off at home and came back here. Fuck, what a great day. Now Lorea is coming over in an hour or two to sleep in my bed. and in the morning? we do it all over again. I just need to let go and love more. That’s what i learned today. Oh and also, Breanna said something interesting in her blog about the piece of mind that I have is in direct corelation to the piece of mind I give others. Same with love, i think. Same with anything, i think.

Surprising even myself… I’m still really in love with her.