Carrie

I’m unsure of where her boundaries are, the threshold of where she will get upset/angry/hurt

We need to share our time because she has both kids all day. Her time is my time and vice versa. She says it will not always be this way and one day we will have the luxury to do as we want.

I feel trapped and oppressed that I have to confer every event and hangout with her lest my scheduling of choice of company offends her.

I see a parallel between scheduling and the people I see. Both have the potential to trespass her boundaries. The trouble is, I don’t know exactly where those boundaries are . She tells me it’s common sense but to me it’s not. To me, to hang out with whoever I please is okay and not in contradiction to being loving and committed. 

I acknoledge and appreciate that we have different ideas of where that line is, and I want to respect hers. So I’ve agreed to run every scheduling and hangout event by her so she can gut check how it affects her .

She of course doesn’t want to come across as controlling or limiting my behaviour….