female relationship complex

quoted from an email sent to a friend of mine:

“I don’t think I interact with females very well. I have what i think could be thought of as a complex where I need attention (communicative, emotional, physical or sexual) from women and when I get it it’s okay, but if i don’t get it then i suddenly mount a resentment towards them for not providing me with that. if i sense a lack of attention, I grow resentful and act out childishly with a “i’ll hurt you before you can hurt me” atttitude.

I am really not proud of this behavior and I really dislike this part of myself. I’d like to know how to change. Over time the reaction has remained as a reliable defect. My efforts to change it have not worked. I am curious as to how I can change this behavior and hope to have deep, healthy relationships with women without manipulating and hurting them and as a result never feeling satisfied in the relationship.

I don’t really know why i’m telling you this, other than to try to stimulate some sort of intellectual conversation that may deepen our relationship. however, i can see how you being female and me discussing my female complexities with you could make you uncomfortable. if this is the case, i’m sorry.”